|Life - ‘FORGET & FORGIVE !’ – Can We Really?|
| By : Rajneesh Batra||Previous | Next|
| Posted on : 06 Jan, 2007 ||Total Views : 1856|
Ever since my childhood I have been listening to my father repeating a phrase and asking his children to apply it to their lives as well. ‘Forget & Forgive’.
So far I was a child, I believed him but after coming across the harsh and cruel realities of life, I came to know that we only dupe ourselves if we claim that we ever ‘Forget and Forgive’. And this applies not only on foes but on friends as well.
Have we ever tried to understand what does ‘Forgetting’ actually mean? Malfunctioning of brain! Nothing more than that. Can anybody afford his brain to go out of control? We only send unhealthy and painful memories to the back of our mind. They are never lynched and always remain alive till the person goes brain-dead. These suppressed memories keep getting rotten further and one day resurface in a horrid fashion. In my opinion ‘Forgetting’ is a highly misunderstood and farce phenomenon, which is the first step of Hypocrisy, and we, unfortunately though pursue it all through our lives. Do we ever forget any ‘Charity’ we do? Or, any insult or treachery suffered by the hands of our loved ones? Then why do we believe or expect from others that he should ‘Forget’ something, which goes in our favour? We only ‘FORGET’ others’ ‘DEEDS’ and our ‘MISDEEDS’, that’s all. There are two beautiful lines for those who inane enough to believe in this superficial virtue:-
“Mere Jhulse Huey Hathon Pe Taras Mat Khao,
Aag Ko Phool Samajhne Ki Saza Payee Hai.”
And one for those who hate to keep themselves at par with others:-
“Milna Julna Jahan Zaroori Ho,
Milne Julne Ka Hausla Rakhna,
Jab Bhi Kisi Se Koi Gila Rakhna
Saamne Apne Aaina Rakhna.”
Now comes the second teaching of my father i.e. ‘Forgiveness’. I wish my father had never taught me this word so that I would have remained ignorant of this most HYPOCRITE, OVERRATED and SELFISH word any English Dictionary can ever contain.
Because we have still not reached that pedestal from where we can ‘Forgive’ others. We do not ‘Forgive’ people but ‘Exploit’ them. If one is forgiving, does he forgive all and sundry? Why we forgive only those we cannot do without? We grant our pseudo amnesty to only those who are indispensable. We forgive our Son for breaking own Car’s Windscreen worth Rs. 5000/- but would deduct Rs. 10/- from our maid’s salary who earns Rs. 100/- a month for breaking a Tea Cup. Would one call it ‘Forgiveness’? Or ‘Clemency of Convenience’. A killer is hanged in Kolkata without delay and Afzal is considered for Amnesty inspite of killing 6 people in the Parliament? Is it ‘Forgiveness’. No! It is the most nauseating example of ‘Dirty Politics’ and ‘Victimisation’. In other words it is called “Show Me The Man and I would Show You The Rule”.
But unfortunately the human values have deteriorated to such an extent that:-
“Nizam-E-Maiqada Bigda Hai Iss Qadar Saqi,
Ke Naam Unko Mila Hai Jinhe Peena Nahin Aata.”
That is, today it is not the ‘Survival of the Fittest’, but ‘Excelling of the Dishonest’ :-
“Yeh Waqt Waqt Ki Baat Hai Momin,
Kal Ke But Aaj Khuda Ban Baithe Hain.”
God has blessed all of us with equal size of ‘Brain’ and ‘Heart’. It is we who ‘Squeeze’ or ‘Expand’ it as per our convenience and selfish motives put the blame on others for ‘Not Being Sufficiently Eligible’ to be pardoned or given a second chance.
If I am asked who I think is the most forgiving person universe has ever witnessed, I would say it was ‘Gulliver’. He was not nailed by the ‘Lilliputians’ because he was asleep. He reacted so just to honour the ‘Grit’ and ‘Courage’ of small people. Otherwise he was capable to swallow all of them in one go, but he really had a large heart like his stature and hence became immortal.
But it is the irony of human life that still ‘Lilliputian Fictions’ are more popular than ‘Gulliveran Epics’ of life just because the latter is content with his true self.
So why can’t we in spite of having a human stature, groom ourselves to ‘Gulliveran Character’ so that we could be able to ‘FORGIVE’ others in true sense.
“Keh Raha Hai Josh-e-Dariya Se Samandar Ka Suqoon,
Jisme Jitna Zarf Hai Utna Hi Who Khamosh Hai.”
Written By : Rajneesh Batra