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| Does There Exist A Perpetually Altruistic Relationship In This World Anymore? |
| By : Rajneesh Batra | Previous | Next |
| Posted on : 13 Jun, 2007 | Total Views : 366 |
Till very recently I used to consider myself as one of the few flag-bearers who are relentlessly trying hard to save the flame of Most Precious Relations from dousing.
However, of late I have been realizing that there does not exist anything like 'Selfless Bond' in this world anymore. Every relationship is erected on the foundation of 'Narcissism'. It might be with an aim to yield a 'Long Term' or 'Short Term Gain' but definitely can never be purely benevolent.
Be it between Father-Son, Brothers-Sisters, Husband-Wife, or even Lovers, there comes a phase when these relations have to pass through the 'Test of Fire' i.e. undergo the 'Agni Pariksha'. And with my experience of more than two decades, I have experienced 100% failure rate on every occasion.
I have seen parents over-pampering their son with a selfish motive of his being their support in the evening of their lives. But to their utmost dismay, the son is found to be having his own agenda of life and chooses the path of his own choice as he too is not an ET character and belongs to this world only. On the other hand, watching their dream getting shattered, parents too change their stand drastically by Disowning Their Kids from their property and all. So, where gone the Altruism?
We have always been made to believe that GOD wants to see his every creation living happily and with harmoniously on earth but I would say that:-
Agar Teri Khushi Hai Tere Bandon Ki Masarrat Mein,
Toh Ae Mere Khuda Teri Khushi Se Kuchch Nahin Hota.
When it comes to Brothers or Sisters, I find them pursuing a selfless bond only till their personal interests and priorities do not cross each others. I can categorically say that there is no scope of having a 'Multi Lane' concept among them. The moment their 'Self Interests' come at the Cross Road a catastrophic accident is inevitable. The moment one tries to overtake the other, the honesty and dedication between their relation vanish. Nonetheless, it is a different story that their public face always remains hidden behind a mask through the mastery in duplicity they carry. Somebody has rightly written that:-
"Mohabbaton Ka Sabaq De Rahey Hain Duniya Ko,
Jo Eid Sagey Bhai Se Nahin Milte."
But there is one relationship that is not pursued out of compulsion or driven by any social obligation. And it is between two unknown and unrelated souls i.e. between lovers. This is one bond which, if pursued honestly, piously and strictly according to the face value of commitment of both entities turns out to be as divine as Heaven on Earth. The stories of Sassi-Punno, Laila-Majnu, Shirin-Farhaad, and Sohni-Mahiwaal underline this faith, although none of them could reach the culmination of their relationship, yet they became immortal and a benchmark for the generations to come. Because they believed in:-
"Tamaam Umra Tera Intezaar Kar Lenge,
Magar Yeh Ranj Rahega Ki Zindagi Kam Hai."
However, in this adulterated world, this most beautiful profile of the human being also got polluted and turned into "Relationship of Convenience". It has virtually reduced to just another "Way of Enjoying Life". I wonder how can people afford to ditch one at the drop of a hat who trusts the former more than the God all through the life. However, sometimes it is given the name of "Honesty" sometimes "Helplessness", sometimes "Truthfulness" and sometimes even "Denouncing" it completely. I think it is the second most painful example of one's misfortune after the loss of a dear one. To me it is the ultimate degeneration of the society, when one saves own life at the cost of other's.. Somebody has rightly ridiculed the sufferer through these two lines:-
"Ro Ro Key Aansuon Ki Hamnen Jhadi Laga Di,
Uss Bewafaa Ney Ghoom Kar Chhata Laga Liya."
And now comes the last and most important association, which although, lasts longest, yet remains inconclusive and dicey till the last breath of either of the souls. That is the relation of Husband & Wife. Even though they sleep, wake-up, laugh, cry, suffer, and rejoice together for decades together, it is not a testimony of trust and candidness between them. Because, itÂ’s only the knot that is tied while solemnizing the marriage and the huge society that witnesses the "Tamasha" keep them together in spite of suffering all through their lives.
Although this relation still lasts longest, but it is only like incurable Eczema, which initially irritates but later the victims become used to it and start drawing pleasure out of it and keep scratching it.
So My Dearest Almighty Sir up there, your World is crumbling down here. I am not complaining for myself but for the dying society as a whole, as I know that you cannot fish me out of my woes, because when:-
"Tujhse Teri Duniya Hi Naa Sanwri Ab Tak,
Ae Maalik-e-Do-Aalam Meri Hasti Kya Hai."
Written By : Rajneesh Batra
