Self Improvement
| Dealing With Everyday Problems |
| By : deepak verma | Previous | Next |
| Posted on : 28 Oct, 2005 | Total Views : 465 |
Let's face it, how many times during the week does the average person, with an average lifestyle and an average income, complain that he's too stressed out, too overworked, under-appreciated, lonely, or frustrated? On average , too often. Well, I'm here to tell you that those pesky everyday problems of yours don't have to take over your life. It's time to take control of your manhood and your life.
Here's a quick statistic on the most common mental disorders in the past year.
Don't let yourself become another statistic.
- Anxiety disorders: 17%
- Major depression: 10%
- Alcohol dependence or abuse: 7%
- Drug dependence or abuse: 4%
- Dysthymia (chronic mild depression): 3%
If you are unsure about whether to seek help for a psychological or emotional problem, ask yourself: "Could I use some help right now?" and not, "Am I mentally ill?" The questions below may help you decide:
- Is the problem interfering with your work, relationships or other aspects of your personal life?
- Have you been feeling unhappy, less confident and less in control than usual for several weeks or longer?
- Have close, trusted friends or family members commented on changes in your behavior and personality?
- Have your own efforts to deal with a problem failed to change your behavior or improve the situation?
- Is dealing with everyday problems more of a struggle than before?
As you read the following suggestions, remember that success will not come from a halfhearted effort, nor will it occur overnight. It will take determination, persistence and time. Some suggestions may help immediately, but if your stress is chronic, then it may require more attention and lifestyle changes. Determine your tolerance level for stress and try to live within these limits. Learn to accept or change stressful and tense situations whenever possible.
Be realistic. If you feel overwhelmed by some activities (yours and/or your family's), learn to say NO. Eliminate an activity that is not absolutely necessary. You may be taking on more responsibilities than you can or should handle. If you meet resistance, give reasons why you're making the changes. Be willing to listen to others' suggestions and be ready to compromise.
Shed the "superman" mentality. No one is perfect, so don't expect perfection from yourself or others. Ask yourself, "What really needs to be done? How much can I do? Is the deadline realistic? What adjustments can I make?" Don't hesitate to ask for help if you need it.
Take one thing at a time. For people under tension or stress, an ordinary workload can sometimes seem unbearable. The best way to cope with the feeling of being overwhelmed is to take things one task at a time. Pick one urgent task and work on it. Once you accomplish that task, move on to the next one. The positive feeling of "checking off" tasks is very satisfying; it will motivate you to keep going.
