SEXUAL PLEASURE AFTER CHILDBIRTH

 

Postpartum Sex is not desired by many women because of pain, or fear of pain, during intercourse. She will be stressed with all her attention demanded by the new born leaving her with less space to think about sex. After childbirth desire for sex will be low as she would find that healing is not enough to make comfortable love making. “No intercourse for six weeks” after giving birth is advised. This is to give adequate time to heal the woman’s genital tissues which will be strained, bruised or torn and above all to prevent infections. Post childbirth there will be changes in a woman's sexuality which tends to lower her sexual urge. Here are some tips to improve postpartum sex.

 

1.Being tender the first time

 

Parents for the first time along with it comes lots of responsibilities. Also has quite an impact on her body, give it time to bring back organs to normal condition. Couples need to be supportive and cooperative with the new responsibility of childbirth and the changes on her body which needs time to heal. Being tender and slow is the first step to a great postpartum sex.

 

2.Doing it orally

 

Alternatives to actual sex if woman experiences pain or fears pain try oral sex. Like using fingers to stimulate her clitoris are enjoyed most but only after confirmation from doctor on her healing up. Giving more attention to her Clitoris which is away from stitches giving her sexual satisfaction. She can also help her husband relieve his sexual deprivation by doing fellatio, ie oral stimulation of penis

 

3.You are special

 

Often found that women tend to shadow away from their partner as they themselves feel undesirable after childbirth. The better half understanding the changes in her body should make her feel wanted and helps her to come out of her fears of sexual intercourse after childbirth.

 

4.Don’t want to get pregnant again

 

Adequate precautions while preparing for new sex life as parents of a new born is extremely important. Better use suitable contraception suiting as you don’t want to get pregnant during all the new experiments you have planned. Don’t let’s spoil it. You can go for mini pills which is effective and safe during breast feeding.

 

5.Increasing lubrication

 

Hormone estradiol responsible for lubrication is lowered due to breastfeeding which decreases sexual drive. Also, prolactin hormone suppresses sexual desire and lowers testosterone. Foreplay will help her to lubricate building the correct mood for both to enjoy during coitus.If lubrication is not enough for you to handle it, you can use water based lubricants like K-Y jelly.

 

6.Back to honeymoon days

 

Remember the days when you were newly married where spontaneity was the word.  All the Kissing, cuddling and massaging. It is the right time for revision, bring all that back.

 

7.Back to shape with exercise

 

The vaginal muscles need to be toned after normal delivery as they will be stretched during delivery making them loose. Kegel exercises can help to tighten up vagina.

 

How to do Kegel (Pelvic floor) exercise

 

Kegel exercise is easy to do and very effective when done regularly. You can do this either sitting or lying down. Contract the muscles like when you do to stop urinating. You can make sure that you have found the right muscles by inserting your finger inside your vagina and try to squeeze the surrounding muscles. You can feel your vagina tighten. You can also feel your pelvic muscles squeezing your urethra and anus. If stomach or buttocks muscles tighten, that means you have not found the right muscles to exercise. Contract the pelvic muscles, squeeze for 3 seconds and relax for 3 seconds. Repeat this for 10-15 times a session. For best results do this 3 times a day regularly.

 

8.Doctor – Advise me

 

Be open about your sexual needs and convey the message to your doctor stressing on the point that you intend to be a very active sexual partner after childbirth while seeking advice.

 

9.Quality that matters

 

No rush to make up for your lost fun during her pregnancy. Don’t set up hard and fast rules for sex every night. Quality that matters than quantity. Sit together and figure out the right timing for you both.

 

10.Bored with old positions

 

Bored with positions tried during pregnancy it is time to experiment the listless positions in Kama Sutra. Start with comfortable positions which would eventually help you find positions giving you more pleasure than expected. After all experimenting is always fun and exciting.